Our lovely Vermont Wedding!
Our lovely Vermont Wedding!

Well, it’s that time of year again: WEDDING SEASON. My social feed is FULL of wedding pictures right now- every spring it seems that half the world is either getting married or going to a wedding, which is so awesome!  I love weddings. Such happy occasions, such cause for enthusiastic bottle poppin’ and booty shakin’.

BUT let’s be honest- weddings stress people the hell OUT, especially the thought of (gulp) DANCING IN PUBLIC. Hey, I get it! On one hand you don’t want to be a wallflower, but you don’t want to make an ass of yourself either.  So for my friends out there who struggle with getting up to get down, this post is for you (with visual aids from my very own wedding- thanks to Eve Event Photography for the memories!):

HOW TO LOOK AMAZING WHEN DANCING AT A WEDDING

    1. Don’t go in cold.  If you never move a day in your life, you can’t expect to strut to the center of the dance floor and look like John Travolta in Saturday Night Fever. You wouldn’t step onto the football field having never gone to practice, would you?  NO! So stop being so hard on yourself and start dancing it out, right NOW.  Turn on some music as you’re getting ready for work, in the shower, as you’re cooking dinner, whenever!  Music makes us want to dance.  So dance!  That way when you get to the big event, you’ll be familiar with what it actually feels like, and you will have eliminated that awkward foreign feeling of moving your body in an open space.
      Our first dance was hip hop, obvi.
      Our first dance was hip hop, obvi.
    2. Anchor yourself.  Bring along a little secret confidence weapon and use it… it could be a fresh coat of red lipstick, those fierce heels (just please make sure you can walk in them- struggling to take 2 steps while staying upright will defeat the purpose of being comfortable), a grounding stone in your pocket, anything that makes you feel good.  Confidence begets confidence.  When you feel good, you move well.
      My friends Dyan and Demetre tearing it up
      My friends Dyan and Demetre tearing it up
    3. Find your people.  No one said you have to do this alone. Stick with your significant other (who loves you no matter what and will LOVE to slow things down, given the chance), find that high school friend who used to memorize NKOTB choreography with you (Kelly Bistok I’m talking to YOU), or clump together with the rest of the wedding party to ensure safety in numbers.
      My husband Brian and friend Jim getting down and dirty, as I look on and point and laugh. #truelove
      My husband Brian and friend Jim getting down and dirty, as I look on and point and laugh. #truelove
    4. Let the music move you.  No one said you have to dance to every song!  If you’re not feeling the music, you don’t have to dance.  All wedding DJs are not created equal, so if it’s your vibe, don’t be shy- get on up there!  If you spend the entire night wishing someone would put the band out of its misery and play the 8-track version of “You Dropped the Bomb on Me, ” well, better luck next time.
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      Dancing Dancing Dancing!
    5. Remember that dancing is just glorified walking!  Yes, that’s right.  All dancing can be broken down into a simple “right left right”.  You can even simplify it more and stand still, just grooving in place like my boy Will Smith does in this video.  And if you want to learn more about glorified walking, check out my program “Don’t Dodge the Dance Call,” where we dedicate an entire week to glorified walking!

Here’s an assignment:  Post a pic of yourself dancing at your next wedding on Instagram and use hashtag #danceeverydamnday (don’t forget to follow me on Insta too)!

At the end of the day, the most important piece to remember is that it’s supposed to be FUN and you are there to celebrate your friends and family on their big day!  Don’t sweat it!  So GOOD LUCK, have fun, and report back!

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Groove on, friends.

Erika